Catching Elephant is a theme by Andy Taylor
i just want to destroy pretty things
that’s it
that’s what i want to do with my art
yes
me: *casually listens to mirrors on repeat for 4 solid hours*
Study finds children with low self-esteem are often praised for personal qualities instead of efforts
This is another one that’s just stacking up on information we’ve suspected for a while. When a child is praised for being smart or talented, it makes the stakes that much higher because they need to stay smart or talented in order to maintain their identity. Here’s the crux of this study:
“Adults may feel that praising children for their inherent qualities helps combat low self-esteem, but it might convey to children that they are valued as a person only when they succeed,” Brummelman said. “When children subsequently fail, they may infer they are unworthy.”The west especially values this sorta-myth of inherent ability over hard work. The one upside is that it gives lazy jerks like me an out when math is revealed to be “not my thing” after the first couple tries.
This has been a huge problem for me with my own self esteem.
I always did tremendously well in school from the second I got there and had always been praised for being intelligent, creative, talented, etc., and as a result, I now suffer from extremely destructive perfectionism in just about everything that I attempt to do, ever.
Because, you know. If the things I do aren’t perfect, then I’m clearly not intelligent, creative, talented, etc., am I.
This explains so much.
o.o
Mind = blown.
I’ve always done really well in school. But math and science got harder and I started failing those classes. I had never failed a class in my life. And I’m still struggling. And whenever I fail a test or get a failing grade on my report card, I have an emotional/mental breakdown.
If I don’t do perfect, I feel like a failure and worthless. It’s horrible.
Thanks, mom and dad! Now we know where you went wrong!
shoutout to google for supporting my 3 am search for the best pasta in richmond
Did you guys know?
It’s actually normal for a lot of people to react to stress, anger, or any emotional situation with tears and it has nothing to do with how strong a person they are?
Even Winston Churchill and Abraham Lincoln cried easily.
And making fun of someone for something they can’t control is a dick move.
Now you know.
(Quelle: unclemaria)
fuck now i have to dig out my flute and re-teach myself
(Quelle: fotbdenton)
If you have cheesecake right now I am extremely jealous of you and your delicious dessert.
no
i just really like cheesecake
i like to think my life could be applied to cheesecake
not like, the physical dessert, but rather the general metaphysical idea of cheesecake
cheesecake in it’s purest form
i will become cheesecake
we shall be one
cheesecake
cheesecake
oh my god i love spaghetti
My life always seems to come back to this
my schedule for the next couple days
i want a snikerdoodle
or perhaps some boiled chicken
no seasoning
no sauce
straight from the pan
plain chicken
yeah
i want a snikerdoodle
